Words

I am a Dorkfish.

I have seen many people called many things. Is this out of hatred of ones self or of others or a bit of both. Do we call others names because we want to shame others into behaving, looking or being what we perceive is correct? or are WE just mean?

 

 

 

Why is it that only some people are standing up and saying "Hey This Is Wrong?"

 

Do words really hurt everyone? 

or just sensitive ones? 

Right?

 

Or the old adage of

"Sticks and Stones will break my bones but WORDS can never hurt me."

 

Is that really true & that is our defense?

 

When we call people hurtful names, because we think it really doesn't hurt?

Its not a stone? Why should it hurt?

 

This sentiment reflects the common law of civil assault, which holds that mere name-calling does not give rise to a cause of action, while putting someone in fear of physical violence does. But WAIT!

 

Doesn't it? I don't know about you but I have become fearful if I have been called names or hateful speech has be used toward me because I know (or am worried about) physical violence that will come after..

 

First they degrade you by calling you names ( renaming you) making you appear less than & then it is a simple step to take it to a physical nature.

 

 

 

 

Did you know that it only took Google 0.43 seconds to find About 275,000,000 results in the search of  POWER OF WORDS.

 

 

 

 

We should or try to be more conscientious of the words we use in our everyday interactions.

 

 

These words can be so powerful and they Cut the heart like a knife they hit us in the tummy they gouge out our very souls & corrode the way we think about ourselves and the world around us.

 

SO

What do we do?

 

Learn.

 

Learn what you say can hurt others, Learn that what I say can hurt you deeper than you could believe, Learn that these words slip of the tongue so easily that it has become common place.

 

 

 

Think?

 

Think! Think about what you say before you say it! Think and ask yourself am I being Judgmental? Would I like someone to call me names? Idiot? Whale? Dumb? Lazy? Slut? Gay? Freak?

 Think is what I am going to say; a kind thing to say or will it be hurtful?

 Am I trying to be hurtful or cruel?

Even when we think we are being funny we are really being hurtful.

 Hurtful words in the guise of  Humor still hurt just as much.

 

 

 

Understand?

 Do you get it yet? Can you empathize?

Don't you understand that what has been said to you doesn't give you the right to say that to others,

 It makes it just as wrong.

You have control over your mouth.

Once you start to understand that very key thing

 

WORDS HAVE POWER!

 

 

Words are magic. They can heal the heart. They can heal the soul they can inspire someone to greatness and they can cause great mass of people to follow someone.

 

 

It is amazing how simple words can effect us?

 

RAPE .. fear..

GRADUATION  ... Pride

HONEYMOON.. Love

DINNER... Hunger

AMAZING.... Wonder

 

 

 

 

As a child I can remember crying myself to sleep after the people who claimed to love me the most in this world made me feel the smallest most awe fullest person ever to them. I was an Idiot and Lazy & Dumb, Carless, a Slut and Ungrateful and so on and so forth..

 

I can remember many Nights crying myself to sleep because the people whom I thought were my friends and classmates and peers made fun of me.. their fun.. Hoe, Ugly, Whale, 4 eyes, Toothless Monster, Dumb , Idiot , Fag, Lesbo, Creature, Freak, Whitey, Chicken Legs, Fat Fuck....  

 

I remember many nights crying myself to sleep silently because of the pain from the words from my so called Lover the person who I was one day to marry because they loved me soo much.. Idiot, Slut, Fat, Anorexic, Co-dependent, Dumb Bitch, Good for nothing. Lazy.

 

I realize now, now that I am now married to a wonder man. I know that I don't tell him enough but he tells me I am Beautiful and Smart, Strong, Creative, Brave and Wonderful also Lovely, Sweet and Kind, and Marvelous. I tell my children that they are too. I tell my friends and family and coworkers that they are too.

 I hope that I can effect so many more people with those words,

 Those kind words they heal.

Maybe not as quickly as the ones that hurt but they DO HEAL.

 

Ok so maybe I am not a dorkfish but maybe I am Brilliant, Kind Creative Inspiring and Lovely, Maybe you are too!

 Maybe you are Incredible and Engaging, Sensitive, Sweet and Selfless, Amazing and Joyful, have a Great Smile or a Wonderful Laugh.

 

 Maybe if we stop judging others we can heal inside too?

 

 

 

 

 

My 13 doesn't like me..

  So today in face plant world on the inter-web I saw an article written about this TV  talk show host Windy Williams, seems she's having a parenting dilemma,  "My son doesn't like me anymore," she said, wiping away her tears. "It is breaking my heart!" .. 

     

                Sigh ..........He's 13. 

He's a growing boy, if he didn't dislike his mom about now I would be surprised. It's not your job to make him like you. In fact if he does then your doing something wrong! 

Your job is to keep that child safe thus keeping him from all that perceived fun stuff that will kill, mame  and or destroy his life. It's your job to keep him innocent for as long as possible. Keeping him from harms way, from drugs, alcohol and of course promiscuous ready available girls, girls and more girls. 

Yes he will not like you as you remind him his homework was due three days ago the project never started that's due in an hour and a half .. 

Yes he will think your nagging him everyday because you can't walk to his bed from his door because of the minefield he insists on is really his floor. 

Sorry dear Windy, your once loving sweet child who would once hug you and pet your hair saying I love you to the moon and back has been replaced with a miniature manchild whom is shutting you out of this leg of his journey of self discovery. 

It is your job to get him to the path of adulthood in one piece and hopefully with as little damage as possible all the while they will be hating you, disrespecting you and undermining your efforts.  

Your child at 13 not liking you is just the warning bell that your on the right path. 

Just remember just because we don't like someone, doesn't mean we don't love them. 

Video Games,The Good, The Bad, The Good For You?

 

 

 

 

 

Video games are not as bad as we thought!!!

 

 

 

 

 

I have read many an article that says how horrible video games are & how they make people more violent and how we need less of them. That todays youth have their brains falling out of their ears and are taking up guns shooting everyone..

 

  " It's the games, they told me to do it! "

 

 

 

 

Well, What about the news that claims Researchers from North Carolina State University have found a link between elderly people who dabble behind the controller have better emotional health?

(http://www.cbsnews.com)

 

 

 

 " Really? So if I play some games I have a healthier out look?"

 

Looks like it.. and better yet not only are your emotions happier but you can effect those around you  because people who are in a good mood state are more willing to help others. You don't have to take my word for it, Just ask Brad Bushman, a professor of communication and psychology at Ohio State University and co-author of the study that they ran there.

(http://www.technewsdaily.com)

 

 

And the research from the center for Aging Research & Development in Ireland suggests that using video games can help the elderly improve their balance and, in turn, avoid devastating and often deadly falls.. Professor Craig says: “Improving balance and gait can play an important role in helping older people avoid falls and injury as well as improving their mobility confidence. The games designed in this project to build better balance were formulated with older people in mind. Older people who played the games enjoyed an improvement in both static and dynamic balance.

(Cardi.ie)

 

 

 

"It is amazing to me that anyone can still think that this is dangerous.. oh wait some of our own government still does.."

 

Even  Rep. Nancy Pelosi, the highest-ranking female politician in American history, has come out to defend violent video games, and says that they are not the cause of violence in America. So many of todays Senators and even our own President is under this sad impression.  It all started this year when President Obama allotted $10 Million to the CDC for research for the effects of violent video games, now there are a bunch of proposed bans, lawmakers in several states are fighting to levy a tax on such games, One Senator even said that video games are worse than guns. but I like what Nancy had to say "I’m a mother, I’m a grandmother, but the evidence says that, in Japan for example, they have [as many violent video games as any other country] and the lowest mortality from guns. I don’t know what the explanation is for that, except they might have good gun laws.”

(http://www.gamebreaker.tv)

 

 

 

"Maybe we should see what our senate is doing?"

 

"Why are they wasting time and money on this when we are seeing that research that has been done is showing positive results?"

 

 

 Dr Daphne Bavelier, a neuroscientist at the University of Geneva, has conducted research on the effects of video games on the brain,  Her research shows that video games actually help gamers focus (and maintain focus) better than non-gamers – more so the so-called violent, shoot ‘em up variety.

 

Dr. Bavelier’s research has also effectively busted some video gaming myths.

•  Fact: games do not have a detrimental effect on players’ vision; they actually seem to make players’ vision better. For example, they are particularly good at “distinguishing between different levels of gray, like when driving in fog,” says Dr. Bavelier. She hopes this finding will lead to games that help people with poor eyesight “re-train” their brains to improve their vision.
•  Fact: gamers do not have the attention span of goldfish; they are really good at tracking data, meaning they are better than non-gamers at quickly parsing though mass amounts of information to identify specific data points.

(http://news.hult.edu)



 

To see Dr. Bavelier’s TED Talk, “Your Brain on Video Games: Smarter, Better, Faster, Stronger” you can go HERE

 

 

 

 

"I don't want to turn into some kind of robot what about creativity?"

 

Kids Who Play Video Games Are More Creative!!! Boys and girls who play video games tend to be more creative, according to findings by Michigan State University researchers. A study of nearly 500 12-year-olds found that the more kids played video games, the more creative they were in tasks such as drawing pictures and writing stories. In contrast, use of cell phones, the Internet and computers (other than for video games) was unrelated to creativity, the STUDY found.

 

 

 

Girls Who Play Video Games with Dad are Happier too!

 

"No way!"

 

 

 Researchers from Brigham Young University’s School of Family Life conducted a study on video games and children between 11 and 16 years old. They found that girls who played video games with a parent enjoyed a number of advantages. Those girls behaved better, felt more connected to their families and had stronger mental health. Professor Sarah Coyne is the lead author of the study, which appears Feb. 1 in the ( Journal of Adolescent Health).

 

 

 

And not only that, but Video games are better than watching TV!

 

 

 

"I bet you got research on that too?"  

 

You betcha! Dr. Johnson (  Queensland University of technology in Brisbane, Australia " ( Games Research & Interaction Design Lab " )  said while watching television was a 'passive' experience, video and computer games were interactive, with research showing it boosted children's self-esteem, cognitive skills such as problem-solving and, in some cases, physical activity levels. And computer use and video gaming should not be classed as the same type of activity as watching television and recommended screen-related activities be divided into two categories, active and passive screen time.

 

 

 

"Oh and gamers who team up are less aggressive people!!"

 

" So its good to game with other people? 

 

 "Yes it is ok to be social! I am liking that part too.."

 

 "So tell me where did you learn this tidbit?"

 

(Ohio State Research says) playing games such as “Halo” or “Call of Duty” will not turn people into murderers, but how the games are being played might make gamers more aggressive, according to new research. OSU Professor of communication David Ewoldsen and co-author of the research says gamers who play with teammates rather than against someone, show increased cooperative behavior later opposed to aggressiveness. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“it’s not the content of the game that matters, it’s how you play the game that matters.”

 

 

 "That sums it up pretty good, See...

 Video games are not all bad for us..

Like with everything else take it in moderation."

 

 Don't over do it..

 Play with your friends,

 Play with your kids & Play with your Parents!

Think and use your brain.

 Don't sit by and passively let the world go by.

 

 

 

 

 

Prepper, Survivalist or just being Responsible

Entry:	prepared  [pri-paird]
Part of speach:	adjective
Definition:	ready in body or mind
Synonyms:	able, adapted, adjusted, all  bases covered, all set, all  systems go, arranged, available, Disposed, fit, fixed, framed, gaffed, groomed, handy, in order, in readiness, inclined, minded, of a mind, on  guard,  planned, predisposed, prepped, primed, processed, psyched-up, put up,  qualified, rehearsed,  rigged, set, set-up, sewed-up, stacked, up on, up*, willing, wired
Antonyms:	ignorant , neglected, unprepared, unready

* = informal/non-formal usage

 

 

 

 

The reason I put this up is because sometime I worry that people (friends family ect) will think I am some sort of crazy when I get excited about being prepared.

 

" Prepared for what?"

 

"Um, I don't know about you but I live in earthquake territory and then there are storms and so many what if's some more rare than others some more ill conceived than others"

 

 

                                               

 

                                                 " zombies are not real, you know that"

 

"Yes, I know that the likelihood of a Zombie Apocalypse really happening is like... everyone I know winning the lotto at once. But if your prepared for that, your prepped for anything"

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Scientific Reasons a Zombie Apocalypse Could Actually Happen:
( http://www.cracked.com/article_15643_5-scientific-reasons-zombie-apocalypse-could-actually-happen.html )

 

 

 " Your not serious?"

 

 

 

" I am not Worried about Zombies, its the Humans you got to worry about. Look at Hurricane Katrina.. or Sandy. Wild Fires, Floods. Riots. Terrorism.. these things are REAL."

 

 

 

 

"So what do I do?

 I can't afford guns or 10 years of food.

 look at all that gear on those sites,

 hell I barley got jumper cables"

 

 

 

" I can't tell you what to do, I can only tell you what I am doing and advise you what would be a good Idea and helpful hints point you in the right direction"

 

( http://www.ohlone.edu/org/security/docs/emergencypreparedness-whattodowhendisastertrikes.pdf )

 

 

 

 

I like to eat and I like to have water on hand. SO...

 

Helpful hint number one.

 

• Every time you empty a 2 liter of soda, wash it out and refill with water. set outside ( if you can) in full sun. rotate the liters by using them to water your garden and refill.
• (http://www.sodis.ch/index_EN)

Helpful hint number two.

 

• Every time you go to the store and you see something you eat and it is on sale buy a few more. So for example we like peanut butter and jelly. It keeps well & we use it. So I buy an extra jar or two when it is on sale, I end up having  4 jars on hand at any given time.. I put the new ones in the back and use the older ones first. Not outrageous but I have a month of lunches on hand now.  ( I do this with pasta and sauce, rice and beans and fruit cups and canned veggies) When you use the jar or pasta or jelly, Wash it out and (dry good) fill with extra rice or pasta or goodies like jelly beans. then put that in your pantry. Use it and refill it every so often. 

What to know more? Sure I'll keep posting.. but there are other great sites to go to as well.

 

• (http://72hours.org/)
• (http://www.ready.gov/natural-disasters) 
•  (http://www.redcross.org/prepare)

Make a plan!!! It will not be go to my house. You need to take care of you and yours while I take care of me and mine. Maybe we might merge into a "them" a bit later.. :)

   

Bowie First New Album InTen Years!

 

 

 

~Bowie~

 

 

One word, One name and One new album coming out.

 In fact he wanted you to hear it so badly that he is making it available for your to hear for free ...

 

 Stream it LIVE from iTunes.. 

 

" The Next Day"

 

     That's just what I did today

 

   I think you should too

( http://www.davidbowie.com/the-next-day  )

 

 Or right now see it on the iTunes home page.

 

 

Please tell me what you think.

 

 

 

         I myself thought it was classic Bowie, But more morose that his other works.

        It was lacking in the upbeat pop of many of his last chart toping songs.

 

           Maybe he is hitting the nail on the head of society?  

 

        Or maybe he is facing a darker side in his life?

 

 

 
And if you want to read the Rolling Stone article on this
( http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/david-bowies-the-next-day-album-a-track-by-track-preview-20130115 ) 
 

It is well worth the listen,

 No doubt many of you will find this on your iPods very soon. 

 March 11th UK & March 12th US

 

 

Spike

Two years ago, I found in a parking lot three little chicks. I was waiting for the boys to come out of farm camp, I brought them up to the farmhouse to let them know the chicks had escaped. They informed me that they were not from that farm. People just dump unwanted chicks there and due to health reasons wouldn't take them in.
( I found out later there was a bunch of cock fighting rings in the area and they dump hen chicks at the farm at night cause they don't need them but most don't live past a day )
I politely asked for a box for my newly acquired chicks. The boys very excited named them. I asked my other half if we could or should keep them, We ended up buying the supplies and they grew into egg laying hens.
( On christmas of that year we received our first egg)
We learned many things over the past two years about chickens... like you don't need a rooster to get eggs. They eat green veggies. They are very soft. They are very smart and dumb at the same time. Each had its own personality. Not all chicken lay white eggs. They have unique personalities And so much more...
I wasn't a "chicken " person before this. But these birds have taught me a great many things over the past two years about my self and about how cool having back yard chickens can be.

song for the day

So I have stumbled on to this song:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/whispering/id570751725?i=570751750

Alex Clare

Mostly known for the song "Too Close" ( http://youtu.be/zYXjLbMZFmo )

After visiting his website    ( http://www.alexclare.com )

 I found he is a well spoken, well traveled creative person. You can find all types of genres in one of his albums. From soul to blues to electric. His soulful voice will be resonate with you long after the song has ended.